Parents try to understand today’s world through the world they experienced growing up. It won’t work. The transition from simple disciplinary problems to major police and health problem is the result not only of the passage of time but of major social upheavals.
For one thing, divorce has become a way of life, placing extra burdens [...]

If such use is unacceptable to you, then you must say so unequivocally. You can point out that it is illegal, adding, “We enjoy your visits, but not your smoking.” A woman who had smoked pot herself in the sixties put is this way to her daughter: “I can’t control what you do.